Yes!!! Its truly unfortunate that the FMS folks have ruined the community's ability to admit when one is wrong about a memory even a little bit.
Yeah like, any given relationship is a social contract, its just an unstated, unwritten one. Putting it in writing it just helps to communicate what everyone expects out of it all and helps create a failsafe for when things go wrong. The memory thing is especially important. Anyone with memory issues should be keeping as many things as possible in writing, especially multi folks. Putting relationship expectations in writing can really help keep things clear.
There is also this stigma that relationships (friendship, familial, romantic, or otherwise) should have every person in them just intuit what is expected from the other party instead of sitting down and actually hashing it out and agreeing to it and we would say that this stigma really contributes to why people are hesitant to really formalize social contracts like this- people arent even used to *talking* about what they expect/want, much less actually formally putting it in writing.
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Its truly unfortunate that the FMS folks have ruined the community's ability to admit when one is wrong about a memory even a little bit.
Yeah like, any given relationship is a social contract, its just an unstated, unwritten one. Putting it in writing it just helps to communicate what everyone expects out of it all and helps create a failsafe for when things go wrong.
The memory thing is especially important. Anyone with memory issues should be keeping as many things as possible in writing, especially multi folks. Putting relationship expectations in writing can really help keep things clear.
There is also this stigma that relationships (friendship, familial, romantic, or otherwise) should have every person in them just intuit what is expected from the other party instead of sitting down and actually hashing it out and agreeing to it and we would say that this stigma really contributes to why people are hesitant to really formalize social contracts like this- people arent even used to *talking* about what they expect/want, much less actually formally putting it in writing.